Not attaching with my adopted 1 y.o?

he's a baby honey, and he doesn't really know you. and for that matter, you don't know what his little life has been like since birth. maybe he reacts differently to your husband because maybe his own mother was cruel to him and so now he just prefers men over women. that doesn't mean to say that over time he won't grow to love you, it just means that right now he wants what is most familiar to him and what makes him feel safe. and also, it could be that he is also picking up on your nervousness of the situation if that makes sense. hes been like this from the beginning right? and every time he acts this way with you it has to tense you up even more right? well, the more you tense up, the more he is going to pick up on it, and the more he is going to push you away. somehow you need to figure out how to not let it bother you as much. learn how to breath through it and accept it for what it really is. he isn't being this way towards you because of you personally, how could he be, he doesn't really know you. babies are very intuitive, they can pick up on a persons feelings and emotions just like that. he feels your stress in these situations and its making it worse.. my suggestion is to continue to take really good care of him, and when you are doing that, try to talk to him in a loving voice, be silly for him, for example, when you are changing a diaper, sing a silly song to him, make silly faces and try to get him to laugh or smile. when you are feeding him talk to him, tell him a funny story, you can connect with him just using your words at first and let him warm to you that way. oh, and when he is letting your husband love on him, maybe you could try to love on your husband at the same time, you know, your hubby is holding the little boy, so you come up and hug the husband. if he see's that this man that he has accepted loves you then maybe he will start to warm up to you the way he has him... but don't lose hope, and don't give up on him. he's little, and he's confused and just trying to get used to his new surroundings.. just keep taking great care of him, and give him time, he will come around eventually.